Let me tell you all a secret.
You cannot sex a male into loving/respecting you...
They know, they know fairly fast if you are the female they decide to straighten up for.
No amount of bending or bedding will you change him for you.
He does it when the one comes along his body's chemicals tell him to change for, he won't waste time.
For women, it is the intimacy that turns our love chemicals on.
You can google this - it is a fact.
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Kyle dates Sally. Sally falls in love and thinks Kyle does too. After all he doesn't cheat and they now live together. It's been 3 years still no wedding. A promise of a wedding, a ring perhaps - but no vows, no dress shopping, no excitement.
Sally gets more down, more lonely, as more years pass in this not-engaged arrangement, wondering what she did wrong, she does the positions she isn't comfortable with, and she spends extra time catering to him, why can't he just give her the one measure of comfort?
It finally happens, Kyle speaks the words you knew deep down would come in some format. He is done. You are a wreck and a friend tells you a new girl has moved into your old home with him and its been 1 month since you two broke up. Less than one year later he is married to her. 5 months later they are pregnant.
You weren't the problem you were a placeholder. he knew - they know - their bodily functions tell them. Don't wait years for a ring the right one will literally fall to their knees.
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please know i am not bashing men as this is a chemical-level thing taking place.
Please know i am not saying leave your partner.
I am saying you cannot sleep someone into loving you back the same.